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[liptonrm_backup]

No wonder I dream of running away to New Mexico.

Had dinner at the Parents' tonight. Afterwards, and after my dad had left the house to visit a friend, my mom put on her Serious Face and asked me if I would ever get gastric bypass surgery (like she did). My response was a flat, terse "No." Of course, she then inquired as to why I wouldn't and I gave the easy, non-controversial reply of "I don't have any weight-related illnesses that would be improved by having that surgery."

What I really wanted to say was "WTF?! Why should I mutilate myself just so you don't have to feel bad about having a fatty for a daughter?"

Gastric bypass surgery has made my mom happier, she no longer worries about what other people will think of her, she actually goes places now, and for that fact alone I'm happy that she had the surgery. But it hasn't made her any healthier, all of the health problems she had before the surgery are still issues for her, with the bonus digestive issues that are directly caused by the surgery.

I am so frigging done with her bullshit. I think I'm going to take a little break from family obligations for a while because I am just done. They're adults, they can take care of themselves.

ETA: And let's not even get started about the wonky familial gender politics. Because Female Issues should not be spoken around Dad for, lo, he is the Patriarch and should not have to listen to such things. Which is all Bull with a heaping side of Shit.

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[cbtreks.livejournal.com]

Good for you! I know my mom (and aunts and gramma) must get tired of me not giving in the self-loathing they all suffer from when they're fat but I refuse to. Fortunately, they never bring up WLS. (And can I just add how much I hate those WLS commercials that say, "When I lose weight I'll _____________." What if you never lose weight? Do it now!)

[hiyacynth.livejournal.com]

I think you're very wise to take some time away from the family obligations. It sounds like your mom is challenging enough in normal circumstances, but coming off of six months of wedding planning and related family drama, I think all the "normal" stuff just gets heightened. You have your own life to deal with, and that should be your primary focus--living it in the way that makes you most happy and comfortable, not living it in the way that will put a band-aid fix on your mother's larger emotional issues.

Because, honestly, your mother is the only one who doesn't know that her issues about her and your weights has little to nothing to do with your weights.

/preachy supportive blather.

Point being: I love you, and I admire you for many, many reasons. Today the one that's at the forefront is the way you maneuver your way through family situations while being true to yourself.

[baylorsr.livejournal.com]

I feel your pain. Zombies, wherefore art thou, zombies? Bringeth us the apocalypse.