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Mar. 21st, 2010 09:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
liptonrm_backupNo wonder I dream of running away to New Mexico.
Had dinner at the Parents' tonight. Afterwards, and after my dad had left the house to visit a friend, my mom put on her Serious Face and asked me if I would ever get gastric bypass surgery (like she did). My response was a flat, terse "No." Of course, she then inquired as to why I wouldn't and I gave the easy, non-controversial reply of "I don't have any weight-related illnesses that would be improved by having that surgery."
What I really wanted to say was "WTF?! Why should I mutilate myself just so you don't have to feel bad about having a fatty for a daughter?"
Gastric bypass surgery has made my mom happier, she no longer worries about what other people will think of her, she actually goes places now, and for that fact alone I'm happy that she had the surgery. But it hasn't made her any healthier, all of the health problems she had before the surgery are still issues for her, with the bonus digestive issues that are directly caused by the surgery.
I am so frigging done with her bullshit. I think I'm going to take a little break from family obligations for a while because I am just done. They're adults, they can take care of themselves.
ETA: And let's not even get started about the wonky familial gender politics. Because Female Issues should not be spoken around Dad for, lo, he is the Patriarch and should not have to listen to such things. Which is all Bull with a heaping side of Shit.
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Had dinner at the Parents' tonight. Afterwards, and after my dad had left the house to visit a friend, my mom put on her Serious Face and asked me if I would ever get gastric bypass surgery (like she did). My response was a flat, terse "No." Of course, she then inquired as to why I wouldn't and I gave the easy, non-controversial reply of "I don't have any weight-related illnesses that would be improved by having that surgery."
What I really wanted to say was "WTF?! Why should I mutilate myself just so you don't have to feel bad about having a fatty for a daughter?"
Gastric bypass surgery has made my mom happier, she no longer worries about what other people will think of her, she actually goes places now, and for that fact alone I'm happy that she had the surgery. But it hasn't made her any healthier, all of the health problems she had before the surgery are still issues for her, with the bonus digestive issues that are directly caused by the surgery.
I am so frigging done with her bullshit. I think I'm going to take a little break from family obligations for a while because I am just done. They're adults, they can take care of themselves.
ETA: And let's not even get started about the wonky familial gender politics. Because Female Issues should not be spoken around Dad for, lo, he is the Patriarch and should not have to listen to such things. Which is all Bull with a heaping side of Shit.
